- Are you thinking over and over, “how to stop your divorce?”
- Are you trying to get your ex wife back?
Sometimes we speak out of anger and at the heat of the moment. This is not the wisest thing to do.
When you’re at a point in your argument with your spouse that anger is stirring up, take a deep breath and walk away before something you say, you will regret later. In this case, divorce is a very dangerous word.
Stay away from it if you want to save your marriage.
Reflect on what is infecting your marriage. Are there friends in the way feeding you negative thoughts about your spouse?
Is it a communication problem? Are you focusing too much on your hobby, rather than attending to the marriage? Are there trust issues?
All these problems mentioned have a solution. When you both have given up because the problems seem overwhelming, divorce isn’t the solution.
You’re only running away from your problems instead of facing them. Don’t you remember the covenant you made to each other before God?
In the good times and the bad times you will stick together? Until death do us part…? What happened? Are you going to let problems defeat you or are you going to defeat them?
First and foremost, everything is possible with God. Take this moment to pray and ask God to forgive you for saying the word divorce to your spouse. Ask God to help you speak to your spouse in love, respect, and ask for true forgiveness.
You can’t do this on your own strength. You need a helper and that helper is God. If you ask him and seek him he will show you back to the heart of your spouse. How to stop my divorce – has now been defeated all right here.
Secondly, take action right away. Don’t fear or doubt. Set a time alone with your spouse and let them know you would like to talk.
Once your spouse has excepted begin to apologize for your behavior and let them know how you realized how wrong you were for saying the word divorce.
Tell your spouse how much you love them and ask them that you would like to re-dedicate your marriage to God once again and promise to each other, the word divorce will never be said again.
♦ Follow these steps and you will be successful.
If you want more tips and information on how to stop a divorce visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201311/7-strong-steps-stop-divorce
Here is another great article about divorce: how to stop obsessing about your divorce!
Here is How to Get Your Ex Wife Back
You may not realize it, but no matter how badly you messed up and how much you hurt your ex wife, it still may be possible to get your ex wife back. I’m not saying that it will be easy or that it will be quick, but it may be possible. You just have to decide if you are truly wiling to invest the time and effort it will take to do what is necessary to win her back.
If you can’t really commit to the process totally you really should consider letting her go and find happiness.
If you start down the road and you aren’t able to take it all the way you will only get your hopes, and her hopes, up and you will both be disappointed. I’m not sure that you really want to put yourself through that.
OK, you’re still reading so I guess that means that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to prove to your ex that you’re a changed man and that you still love her and want her back.
Here’s what you need to do: you need to become a changed man. Lip service and hollow promises aren’t going to work anymore. It’s time to suck it up and put your money where your mouth is. Time to change.
Step one of the process is figuring out what you need to change. This may sound easy but it’s actually one of the hardest things to do because it requires you to look at yourself with complete honesty and many times we don’t totally like what we see.
If you really want to get your ex wife back you need to figure out what to change.
If you’re not totally sure what you need to do, just think back to when the two of you were married. What did you argue about?
More than likely your ex told you the things that you said or did ( or didn’t say or do) that caused her hurt and pain.
That is a great place for you to start. When she tried to tell you how she felt did you listen? Or did you get angry and defensive and feel like she didn’t love you? That’s a common response many people have.
They somehow take it personally when their spouse tries to let them know how they’re feeling. When your ex told you she felt a certain way about something, it’s about her, not you.
If you really can’t figure the problem out and you can’t really find anyone to ask, you might want to spend a few sessions with a therapist.
I know, most people find this prospect daunting ( a lot of people won’t admit it’s daunting they tend to use terms like ‘a waste of time’ or ‘b.s.’ but in reality they’re really just scared of what they may hear).
Anyway, a therapist can help you cut through all your own issues and will show you the things you need to see but aren’t quite able to see on your own.
This process really is the only way you can do what needs to be done to finally get your ex wife back.